Thursday, November 23, 2017

Journey of My Hair Back from Violence - My Part Two

Since having my hair ripped from my scalp by a violent family member, I have been doing everything I can to heal my scalp as best I can.  Only a miracle will restore the damage, but I go by faith and not by sight.  One side of my head has been restored but the remainder still needs loving care.

I made a decision last year to shave my hair on the sides again so that I may better touch my scalp to apply the natural herbs and oils.  This has worked on my left side very well and that hair is now chin length.  I actually had to shave the left side twice.  My scalp actually was still tender so as it grew back my scalp would be so sore just by the weight of the hair.  Today the scalp has healed and I don't see any visible signs of scarring.  The hair from the follicle with the worst pulling out has now thickened.  Sadly my right side has more work to do, but I will continue to do what I did to my right side as I did on my left.

5 Steps to Follow

Let me recap a few tips I have learned when you have your hair ripped out.  Step one cut all the hair around it very short immediately and apply an antibiotic to help heal the wounds as well as an antifungal especially if someone ripped your hair out (their fingernails may contain a serious fungus and will contain bacteria).  Step two, begin using only natural products to take care of the scalp like aloe vera gel and flaxseed gel.  Step three, wash your hair often.  Actually, wash your hair more often than you usually do.  For instance, if you wash your hair once a month, now wash your hair every three days and do reapply the antibiotics, antifungal, and natural hair products daily.  The act of cutting the hair makes this process easier.  Step four avoid touching the area too much.  Step five once your outward wound has healed then begin doing scalp massages.  Shaving your hair in that area will help as well because it still may be tender once the hair has grown back in because there is still damage to the dermis unseen.  Massaging your scalp with proper technique and oil will stimulate the deeper healing needed.

Incidentally, what I learned about healing my scalp after violence has transformed my skin on my face too.  Over time I will share more things I have learned too, but for now, those five steps are the most important.  I also give credit to quite a few ladies I have followed on YouTube and Blogs and in due time I will mention those ladies.  I do NOT wish this journey on anyone, but if I can help women and children who are victims of violence then I think this journey is not for naught.

Peace Ladies!

Tuesday, March 8, 2016

Like Dirt Can Wash Your Hair

Sooooooo, I have been very late to the game as far as washing my hair with clay.  No it is not because I was skeptical, but because through my research I found that clay can be carcinogenic.  I had to be truly sure that the clay I was going to use was less toxic to my system.  I now have found that clay and with that being said I have finally found an additional natural product that can replace shampoos for me (yeah even the non-sulfates).

I don't think I mentioned that I am allergic to shampoo.  I have tremendous sneezing fits the next day and some shampoos the day of.  Despite taking a Claritin or even Benadryl the sneezing continues for days!  It all started a few years after going natural and just keeps getting worse.  It lead me to a more natural alternative.

In the last three years, I have been watching vlogs like Naptural85 and reading blogs like and I have gained tremendous amounts of information.   I found that there were cites that I could go to and order natural products and I didn't have to spend time hunting around town for more natural products.  Well one thing I kept seeing was this women washing their hair with bentonite clay.

I have known about bentonite clay, but I avoid it because it is carcinogenic (I learned this from my pharmacist), although it gives great results.  Still there had to be another clay that had cleaner properties and that is where rhassoul clay comes into play.  Unlike bentonite clay, rhassoul clay is more directly from the ground.  It comes from only a few places, one of which is Morocco.  Bentonite is not a mineral like rhassoul, but is often an ash, a volcanic ash  (Williams).  I prefer to have minerals and I have found my body thanked me for it.

So for now I tried it to wash my hair and it got my hair squeaky clean, but heavily moisturized.  It also did not tangle my hair in washing it.  Although it was a horrible mess to put on the rinsing was extremely easy.  It also made any tangles I had come out and stretched my hair.  Oh and the greatest thing of all is that I did not sneeze my head off.  Let me just say that I am a fan.  I am adding this to my regime!

Shalom Ladies!

Williams, Lynda B. and Shelley E. Haydel. “Evaluation of the Medicinal Use of Clay Minerals as Antibacterial Agents.” International geology review 52.7/8 (2010): 745–770. PMC. Web. 8 Mar. 2016.

Friday, January 22, 2016

Journey of My Hair Back from Violence - My Part One

So I opened up to you all that my hair had been ripped out by an unwanted touching through force.  I had to make the decision to tell about it because it has affected my blog that chronicles my journey to long hair.  How can I show you my journey to long hair when parts of my hair is missing?  Well I have been forced to be open with you.  So without further adieu, I am sharing some of the things I am doing to get my hair back.

One thing I have been doing since the first week of the trauma is washing those areas at least once a week with a conditioner.  I also apply an amla powder and henna powder mix to those areas.  I leave the mix on for at least 30 minutes and then I wash my hair.  Amla works great because it also strengthens the hair follicle.  Henna is great because it has natural anti-fungal properties.  When a person pulls your hair, then you never know what kinds of bacteria and/or fungus their nails carry.  In my case, I knew the person carries fungus, so I needed a good anti-fungal medicine to ensure my hair will grow back properly.

On my list of to do is to see a dermatologist.  This is beyond my scope so it is good to see someone who has more knowledge than you.  I will update you all when I do and I will be sure to post the questions I asked too.  Well, lastly, but not really lastly I went to the Lord in prayer!  I asked those in the natural hair community to join me in prayer and I believe that has by far been the most helpful.  Since, my blog's title incorporates the Bible, I will do another post on the prayers that I do for my healing and for long hair too.  Thank you for your time!

Peace Ladies!

Sunday, January 10, 2016

MY Hair Tragedy

Since October, I have been dealing with a traumatic episode with my hair not of my own making.  Before that fatal day, I had been debating as to, "Whether I  want to display my hair on my new blog?", as I have been building it.  I struggled with the fact of my displaying my hair would breach my privacy.  I know that writing my hair story on a blog shares private facts about myself, but I was not quite up to displaying it with visual aids!  I ...  now,  have decided that I will show my hair soon, especially because what I am going through may help other women.  It is a subject that I have been familiar with and that I witnessed women in my life go through, but that I myself didn't allow myself to make it a thing at the forefront of my mind.  It is a subject that I have been a victim too over and over again, but now it has affected my hair too.  My hair had been the tool I used to break the bondage of my familial tyranny over my life and now,  the one who abused me the most, ripped good portions of my hair out.  So, I am now writing this blog for you, for the women who need to gain strength in getting out and away from bondage of all kinds!  I share my story to help others to get out of situations they may be in denial, or unaware through naivete and/or manipulation like myself.


Thursday, October 8, 2015

A Short on Dealing with Breakage

My natural journey spans a fifteen year process with the later half of thirteen years being fully natural.  I have done just about everything you can imagine to my hair and for the most part it has withstood the tests.  And yes, in this more than a decade of returning to natural hair I have experienced breakage.

One thing my hair just could not take was a "temporary" blow dry straightener (that is a later discussion) bleach, color, and heat in combination.  Over time my low porosity, dense, and thick hair simply broke under the weight of it.  I had good habits with the exception of blow drying my hair every wash, but still my hair broke off.  So my journey to health natural hair began in 2011.  I am now four years into my natural hair journey and I am enjoying it.  

I had to take an inventory along these four years of what habits caused the ripe conditions for my long hair to break off.  First, I cut all of the obvious breakage off, simple!  My hair was bra strap length at the time, so I cut off about four inches.  Next, I dealt with the rest of the damage.  I nursed my hair with deep conditioners and protective styles.  I also went through some weird phases like completely shaving a four inch section on the right front side of my hair two years ago.  The rest of the time was rather uneventful.  Three years later (2014), I decided to go on a journey to long hair.

Once again in my four year mark I am dealing with damage again.  My damage this time came from choosing to use the wrong kind of synthetic hair for my twists.  However, this time is different.  I went through the trauma of damaging perfectly long hair after several years of being natural!  Now I know to pace myself and their is no need for me to chop off large sections of my hair.  The short of it is that I just need patience and this too shall pass.  I still will reach my length goals!

Peace ladies!

Monday, September 7, 2015

Wear Your Hair!

I had not noticed that I had been accustomed to wearing protective styles so often that I had stopped wearing my hair out.  Am I embarrassed of my hair I thought?  How could I so easily tell another young girl to wear her natural hair out and I hadn't worn my hair out in months?  In fact, many people thought that faithful wig of mine was my real hair.  I was living a lie and not knowing it.  So this year starting in September of 2014 I decided to wear my hair out more.

It was a little hard at first because I had grown accustomed to just cornrowing my hair and throwing the wig on it.  I had also grown accustomed to styling my braids or two strand twists with weave for added length and longevity.  I had to re-learn styling my hair.  I didn't however have to re-learn how to take care of my hair.  Luckily I had embarked on a new journey to finally grow my hair long and kick habits from my perm days (long over due), which made my battle easier.  The hardest part was that my hair was in the darn mid-length stage and it made it very frustrating.

So I had to make a concerted effort to choose my hair over and over again.  I was hard in the fact that when I first went natural I did use weave to get me through the mid-length stage that I had just went back to because of color and bleach damage.  However, I am and was armed with the fact that I have made it through the mid-length stage before.  I know that it really is a matter of months before it goes away, but feels like eternity!  I had to keep choosing my hair over and over again!  So, I did the same styles like double strand twists, but with my own hair and the good ole tuck and roll.  I did falter once in July and use weave for double strand twists because I was desperately tired in the morning and wanted the extra snooze.  After taking those out in August I soon regretted it because I had a few mid-shaft breaks even though I had gained some inches.  I rebooted and now I style with my hair alone.  I wanted to go back to what I was doing as a young girl and teen enjoying my hair!

One year later September 2015, I am wearing my hair through thick and thin.  I pledge to do this until I reach my hair goal of all my hair being bra strap length.  Of course, I have a longer goal, but I wanted to re-dedicate myself to accepting my hair that G-d gave me!


Tuesday, May 5, 2015

Starting a New Journey

I decided last year to stop using combs to comb my hair and in that I decided to also grow my hair long once and for all.  This month I start a new, or, at least, I feel brand new.  It has been nine months and I am starting to see the payoffs.

My hair looks healthier and IS longer.  This time, around I am not chopping it off subconsciously because this is what I was taught to do, but I am methodically on a limit trimming my hair.  I am starting a new way of thinking and it is paying off.  I hope you join me in this new training.

Finger detangling has been a little more difficult in that I have been struggling to just finger detangle.  I confess I have used a comb, a wide tooth comb nonetheless.  I forgive myself in that I am still learning a good technique.

This post is short and sweet and there is more to come!

Peace ladies!